They say you can't have your cake and eat it too... but who exactly are "they"? And what do "they" know? As far as I'm concerned, the only person that can determine what you have is YOU (aside from the Lord). Much of our life entails situations we can control. Our everyday encounters often impact us either negatively or positively, so why is it that sometimes we choose the negative? Such an interesting phenomenon at times. Be it true I have made poor decisions in my life, I believe it's fair to say we all have. However, everything in our lives has lead us to the very moment we are in, which is NOW. Trials and tribulations follow us, and will continue to do so as we go through life with often times the stakes get higher. It's important that we all be present in the moment and be exactly where we are.
People often ask me how do I do it all and I must note that I am extremely grateful for my army because they are a big factor in allowing me to do what I do, both on and off the lanes. I'm a mommie, wife, I work, I have a leggings business, I'm at the end of the road getting another Master's in HR and I travel a bit pursuing my passion of bowling. That's a lot of hats to wear but time management has always been a strong suit of mine. Being able to sort through my day and essentially "plan" how it's going to go. This was one of the toughest characteristics of mine for my Husband Chris to grasp -- I'm such a planner and he is such a "go with the flow" person. It can be very frustrating at times but I suppose that's how we level each other out!
I have to talk about my most recent win at the Players Championships -- but before I do, I would like to rewind to the U.S. Women's Open about 7 weeks prior. Here is I was in the same situation -- the #1 seeded player at my home center. (The U.S. Women's Open was held at my collegiate home center in Orlando where I too, bowled everyday and worked at as well.) That was my first telecast ever as the #1 seed. You literally have one game to bowl on TV to win a Major Championship. It all goes SO quickly and can be very tricky making game changing decisions. I tell people I did not LOSE the USWO that day -- I simply didn't WIN it. BIG difference in my takeaway from that experience. I fully believe that when it's your time, it's your time. Someone had other plans for me which lead me where I ended up weeks later here at the Player Championships.... as the #1 seed... again, at my home center. People asked me if Orlando had any impact on how I was going to approach this situation and I'd be lying if I said it wouldn't..... however, I felt it was important to acknowledge that Orlando happened in Orlando, and here we were in Plano. The two as similar as they felt, were completely different. I still had one game to bowl on television and regardless of who my competitor would have ended up being, I knew I had to stay within myself and control the elements that I could. That win will go down as one of my favorite and most memorable bowling moments to date. It was very emotional for me. I knew it would be had I come out on top, however, you never truly know how you will react until that very moment. It was very special and it's still very much a fairy tale in my mind as so many stars aligned for me that day; and to do it at my home center in front of my family, friends and fans was incredible. The set was electric (and very hot!), exciting and the energy was so high. I felt every bit of it. I was nervous deep down but I also had a calmness over me. For those that are unaware, my father passed 4 years ago and I had a momentum made with some of his ashes. I kept it in my pocket that day and I knew he was with me. He was (and still is!) one of my biggest fans no matter where he is watching from. I know he was proud cheering for his baby girl. I can't reiterate how much my family means to me -- I may be the one competing, but there are so many more people "behind the scenes" that make it all possible. I will forever be in debt to them for allowing me to pursue my dreams and provide for them. I have a few takeaways from this event (as I do them all): Trust in your ability. Be you at all times. Celebrate your successes. Be grateful. Seize every opportunity. If all of those things happen, failure is never an option even if you don't finish #1.
I want to share with you all some of my favorite learning quotes.... these especially resonate with me as I go through this life journey of being a mom, wife, a new entrepreneur, professional bowler and everything else in between. It's a lot to juggle at times, but having my army right by my side makes it all possible. I will forever be in debt to those that have helped and pushed me to pursue all of my dreams -- some of those dreams of which I haven't even begun just yet.
When I made the decision to start my company FanieHose, I have to admit it was a scary thought. Exciting, but scary none the less. So many emotions and questions. Not to mention I didn't know the first thing about starting a business. But just as I tackle any other situation in my life, I started doing research and asking those around me whom I trusted, about where I should begin. And where should you begin? At the beginning, of course! My company is far from being perfect, in fact it's a work in progress as I like to call it. Opening yourself to feedback as I have done often opens yourself up for criticism. However, personally, I feel the only way to grow is to be critiqued and either make adjustments or move on. In this particular instance, I am making an adjustment to my product and will cross my fingers! It's not often you get to have that big of an impact on a decision but the feedback was overwhelming so I am choosing to move in that direction (to change the fabric).
So as I mentioned, I am continuing to learn and be better in every aspect that I can. It's important to strive for perfection and understand that it's a process -- a never ending one at that. Perfection is in the eyes of the beholder and I do understand that just when you feel you get close to it, our outlook changes and it gets farther and farther away. My life revolves around challenging myself and always pushing my boundaries to keep me hungry for the next thing. The moment we become "comfortable" as some say, life sort of becomes repetitious and we just go through the motions. I don't ever want to feel like I'm just going through the motions and not having an impact on something or someone. So if even just one person finds an ounce of inspiration in anything I write or do, I feel a sense of accomplishment.
Yesterday was a new adventure our little family had never experienced before - we decided to make a day trip to the Dallas World Aquarium. It was a "spur of the moment" type of outing, which is unusual since I'm quite the planner... but we just went with it. Our son decided to be a superhero a couple days prior and fracture his right shin so we needed something where we could push him around. I think often we get trapped in our very own routines so it was nice to venture out and do something rather spontaneous together. None of us had ever been there so that was nice -- we had a great time and will likely be purchasing a season pass when our littlest Kenzie gets to be a bit older and can understand it more. (She turns 1 on Friday!)
Our lives are constant adventures and now having two children, it's amazing to see the world through their eyes. It has showed me to sometimes slow down and "smell the roses". We get so caught up with the monotony of life that often it's the little things we miss that have the biggest impact. So my challenge to all of you is to take a moment to just look around at all your life has to offer and make the best of it. We aren't always dealt the best hand, but it's how we play it that makes all the difference! Happy Wednesday y'all!
Just a girl with a passion trying to make the most of each day.